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Infidelity
appears to be the topic of the year.
Q: What is the infidelity?
A: The infidelity is that you took something that was
supposed to be mine, which is sexual or emotional
intimacy, and you gave it to somebody else. I thought that
we had a special relationship, and now you have
contaminated it; it doesn’t feel special any more, because
you shared something that was very precious to us with
someone else. There are gender differences. Men feel more
betrayed by their wives having sex with someone else;
women feel more betrayed by their husbands being
emotionally involved with someone else. What really tears
men apart is to visualize their partner being sexual with
somebody else. Women certainly don’t want their husbands
having sex with somebody else, but if it’s an impersonal
one-night fling, they may be able to deal with that better
than if their husband was involved in a long-term
relationship sharing all kinds of loving ways with
somebody else
Q: And it is deeply traumatic.
A: It’s terrible—unless you cheated on each other during
your engagement, or you or your partner came from a family
where everybody cheated on everybody, or you come from
certain cultures where the women don’t take it that much
to heart, because that’s the way men are thought to be.
The wounding results because —and I’ve heard this so many
times—I finally thought I met somebody I could trust.
Q: It violates that hope or expectation that you can be
who you really are with another person?
A: Yes. Affairs really aren’t about sex; they’re about
betrayal. Imagine if you were married to somebody very
patriotic and then found out your partner is a Russian
spy. Someone having a long-term affair is leading a double
life. Then you find out all that was going on in your
partner’s life that you knew nothing about: Gifts that
were exchanged, poems and letters that were written, trips
you thought were taken for a specific reason were actually
taken to meet the affair partner. To find out about all
the intrigue and deception that occurred while you were
operating under a different assumption is totally
shattering and disorienting. That’s why people then have
to get out their calendars and go back over the dates to
put all the missing pieces together: when you were going
to the drugstore that night and you said your car broke
down and you didn’t come home for three hours, what was
really happening?
Q: This is
necessary?
A: In order to heal. Because any time somebody suffers
from a trauma, part of the recovery is telling the story.
The tornado victim will go over and over the story—"when
the storm came I was in my room…"—trying to understand
what happened, and how it happened. Didn’t we see the
black clouds? How come we didn’t know?"
Q: And so
they repeat the story until it no longer creates an
unmanageable level of arousal.
A: Yes. In fact, sometimes people are more devastated if
everything was wonderful before they found out. When a
betrayed spouse who suspected something says, "I don’t
know if I can ever trust my partner again," it is
reassuring is to tell them that they can trust their own
instincts the next time they have those storm warnings.
When things feel okay, they can trust that things are
okay. But if somebody thought everything was wonderful,
how would they ever know if it happened again? It’s
frightening.
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